One simple question. Quite direct and self-explanatory to an extent. A question we bury deep down somewhere and pretend it doesn’t exist for us. But someone somewhere brings it up. Some people say hush! You are a brave person, there is no way someone like you can be scared. Some say it’s OK, it’s alright to be scared, you are human, while some say you are scared, just admit it! Should you? Or rather, are you really scared? Let’s find out.

I think being scared is not about the unknown. It’s not always about what might happen. It’s about the odds of losing. Losing family, friends, close ones, home, money, job and in some cases life! And just sometimes it maybe about losing oneself. We all know death is inevitable. And every life has a different purpose, a different direction, we might cross paths with others on the way, be it family or friends or unusual acquaintances, but we will someday have to move away from them, be it one by one or all at once. For some of us, work is our priority, it defines us and we either jump up the ladder or fall apart, rather too soon. All the above come and go.

We often think people are replaceable, that it is alright if we lose a friend, we’ll find another. If you lose a family member, there maybe 10 others around just trying to fill in the gap or the vacuum that was created. But no one can really replace another person. You could add a whole new experience to someone’s life but you cannot be, shouldn’t be and don’t need to be replacing just what went missing. And similarly no one can fill those gaps and spaces in your life. You have to be open, open to experiences, open to people, open to yourself. Because for every piece lost, a new one is handed over to you. It is your decision what you choose to do with it.

While there maybe people trying to fill in the gaps for others, can someone fill in the emptiness you feel when you lose yourself? Imagine you lost yourself in life, which most of us have already felt at some point of time in life, can anyone other than us really fill in that vacuum? Everything you thought of yourself, all the great things you think you should have achieved by now, all your wishes! No one else can live them up, live that life you wanted for you. It is you. It will always be just you. You have to find yourself. And how will you find yourself if you never really felt lost? How will you know what’s right if you don’t know what’s wrong? How will you know who you are if you don’t know who you aren’t?

So after all it is good to be scared. It means you realize the value of what you have, and you know you don’t want to lose it. That would give you the will and strength to fight for it. That strengthens the bond you have, the bond you share with your loved ones and the bond you share with yourself. So do that for yourself, do that to better yourself. Figure out what you need and answer this for yourself…

Are You Scared?

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