Wires. Different colours, different sizes, different purposes, different components. Just like us humans. Different interests, different upbringing, different goals and different choices. Keyword here being different. When someone has a view not on the same line as ours we tend to either negate it all together or just think to ourselves what is wrong with this person or wonder what is wrong with us that we don’t think like them. What we rarely do is understand we are different and simply agree to disagree. We often think it is necessary to have a similar thought process and either try to influence the other person or just nod our head saying yes to whatever is being said or completely shut the other person down. Maybe we could find a mid-way. Maybe we could learn to appreciate a different perspective. You don’t have to accept it but just respect it and find a way to co-exist not giving up your individuality.

What is it really that makes us different from the rest though? Often when we are asked this question, what we hear is what is our differential advantage? Try asking this question to yourself. What is it about you that makes you stand out in the crowd. Not stand out because you are better than the rest in something, instead stand out because of who you are, your individuality. Take a break from the rat race, take a break from the constant need of trying to prove you are better than the rest, take a break from thinking you have limited time and so much to do, just breathe and ask yourself what is it that makes you who you are, what is the reason that you chose certain goals in life?

Let’s say you are in control of life and you have it all figured out. Ask yourself a few questions. Are you actually doing what you love, if not doing at least taking time and waiting for what you love, what you truly desire and creating your own perfect, bringing your life together the way you want to or are you trying to live someone else’s idea of perfect or have you made someone else’s idea of perfect as yours? Would you rather live a life seeking perfection in the eyes of others doing things they think would make you feel accomplished or are you trying to realize your own dreams, being yourself and being with people who let you be yourself without making you feel the constant need to impress them? If you are letting go, are you willing to let go of what you love because you do not have enough time, because life needs to be perfect and you need to achieve perfection in a stipulated time period? And what if what you love doesn’t fit in your idea of perfection, what would you give up? Love or perfection? Not so surprisingly, what we give up on is love.

This love could relate to anything at all. Love for art, love for sports, love for a person, love for yourself. While we try to achieve what we call a perfect life, we keep loosing out on a lot of little things with time. What is a perfect life anyway? Going to a good college, a great job, getting married, having kids, being successful and having a big home? Is this perfection or is this a stereotype that is being passed from generation to generation? It’s strange how a majority of us are living the perfect life but still aren’t quite happy. You may say you aren’t living quite the perfect life but you could gladly list down 10 people who according to you are living the perfect life, who have it all. If you go to those 10 people you would get a list of another 100 people with the perfect life and the list goes on. You know why?  Because we think perfection is what the other is doing. We don’t value our own desires, we want to be followers and do everything that he/she is doing and are happy when we are able to do it.

Ever tried do what you wanted to do? Think. What makes you happy? Find the will, the patience, the commitment and dedication to follow your heart, your dreams, snap out of what is perfect, create your own version of perfection, have a little faith in yourself, have a little faith in people, have a little courage, use your imagination, see what could come out of it, have a vision and when you have a vision ask yourself…

Is this what you want?

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