Dreams. Hopes. Aspirations. What do all these have in common? You might have guessed it right. All relate to the future. Our dreams, hopes and aspirations are always for a better tomorrow, which we plan today or at least try to plan. We all at some point in our life realize we are an adult and have to be accountable. We realize we need to become accountable for the tasks given to us. We seldom realize we are accountable to ourselves, for ourselves too.

All of us have faced the transition from our dream world to the real world at some point of time in life. The change in our thoughts from what was to be, to what is. The shift in our approach from frustration about what didn’t happen to acceptance of the present. What does this shift imply? If we get a chance to interpret this for someone else we tend to jump at the chance and tell them that they didn’t try hard enough, they weren’t focused or we try to console them saying that something better is on its way or they deserve much better than they think they do and every other permutation and combination of these pacifying words. But how do we deal with it when it comes to us?  Do we give ourselves a chance and try to understand the little factors that influenced us throughout or are we harsh on ourselves or do we not care and just turn a blind eye to it and not feel anything? We often think it has to be one of the above options that we can do. Suddenly we lose sight of who we are and possible reasons for this transition and push ourselves into the crowd and get lost somewhere in the middle. We get so caught up trying to prove ourselves because we think that it is the only way to survive. We put the search for finding ourselves on a halt. This halt doesn’t really matter though because you do not even know yet who you are. And how will you know who you are if you do not know who you aren’t? How will you know who you aren’t if you don’t explore? How will you explore if you are basing your life on the beliefs that were laid down by someone else? And how will you know what you really dream of if you don’t even know who you really are. Makes sense?

This constant madness in our head about what we were meant to be and what we are becoming tends to distract us from the present. I don’t really think it is others who cage our dreams. If you actually sit down and think about it, you will realize you put yourself in a cage all by yourself. We get so carried away by the dreams we had that we forget to embrace the present and see what we have become and that just maybe our reality is in fact where we belong and that unfulfilled dream was just a sand castle of the past which had no foundation and was really just a story we made up in our head, and we constantly battle with ourselves to live the dream while we miss out on something more beautiful, the reality. It’s not just the dreams we had when we were younger, it is the dreams we have even today. Of course we will dream about tomorrow, but let’s not restrict ourselves to these dreams. Let’s be a little open to what life has in store for us. Bargain a bit if you shall, stick to it if you know what you want but just keep the window open for a better possibility, for a better reality, for a better future. Be less harsh on yourself, struggle isn’t always the answer, sometimes acceptance shows us a better path, a path that might lead us to where we wanted to go or a new path with an altogether new set of possibilities. Let’s embrace the present and be ready for a brighter future.

So find yourself, listen, keep your eyes open, look around, talk to people, accept the deviations from your dreams, see the brighter side in the changes, try out the new adventures life offers you, and create your life. Get up and get ready to explore because it’s your life and you get to write the story, change the story, don’t let anyone restrict you, not even you yourself, what is yet to happen is not in your control but what you make out of what is happening is on you, so make it an epic story, after all…

It is your Story!

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